Self-Love is not being selfish – 5 effective pointers

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Self-love is something that is trending these days and the spotlight is more on loving thyself and being one’s own valentine.

It’s not how much you do but how much love you put in the doing, is what counts.”

Mother Teresa

Self-love is an act of kindness and compassion towards our own self. It’s not a forceful act that someone can impose over the other. 

Self-love is about considering oneself as the most precious, the most joyous and the most valuable than anything else. An act of self-love is done only when one wants to be happy and in peace.

Self-love and Selfishness

Self-love is seen often as being compared to selfishness. 

An individual who does not think or care about other person feelings and emotions and just fulfills his / her own needs and desires is captioned as being selfish.

But an individual who cares about their likings and prioritizes a few hours for their ‘Self-Care‘ is yet many a time victimised to be pointed for an act of selfishness. 

The Magic of Self-love over selfishness

  • Self-love brings Acceptance

When we understand our own self and love ourselves despite not being perfect with quite a few weaknesses, we unconditionally accept the other person the way they are and lead a life free from complaints and grudges.

  • Self-love gives freedom

Freedom is the most precious gift to give self and anyone around. Holding too tightly on one’s thoughts brings suffocation in a relationship. Self-love teaches to respect the other person’s decisions and their say to give liberty and space to do what they love to do.

  • Self-love does not compulsory demand love from others –

When we love ourselves, we glow from inside with happiness and with a balanced state of understanding, we do not demand love from others but instead understand that demanding love never can attract respect and love from others. 

  • Self-love imparts Gratitude

Abundance of self-love brings an attitude of looking at the positive things in life and being gratefulness for what we have. We learn to live in the present moment and the power of synchronicity gradually makes all things fall in the right place for us and for everyone around us.

  • Selflove guides to rise above self to give others

With self-love, an individual knows that giving is everything. Self-Love not just makes you happy but it is contagious which spreads smiles, hugs, happiness and love to everyone they meet with their presence. 

Self-love is not selfish,

It’s not a mistake that you have done,

Instead, it’s a lifestyle that

Makes you who you are!

It begins from within,

Nurtures and pure the heart to flow outwards

As the best gift to yourself and the World.


  1. Amen to that sentiment! Self-love should definitely be given more importance than it currently is.

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